Some may scoff at the compelling temptation of the human soul to “indulge” in “if only.” For a great many birthmothers, I find, and myself included, “if only” is the trap that we do not get the luxury of avoiding.
So for those who find “if only” distasteful, you may stop reading and participating here.
For the rest of us, please know you are welcome to speak freely your “if only” here. This is a safe place, free of judgment.
And I’ll go first.
If only wisdom had kicked into my soul when fertility and vitality kicked into my biology.