Even though I may not get a lot of traffic on this site, I would love some interaction and some feedback on a particular question.
I have been trying to think of one good thing about adoption, and, as a birthmother, I haven’t come up with anything – at least nothing that feels real or viable. And I’ve been at it for days! I mean, I know I wouldn’t be who I am had I not traveled down this path, and I don’t actually hate who I am, but I do miss who I became when I had my son, and so I do miss who I should have been, which is L’s mom.
If I had to be tied down to an answer, though, I would have to say the one good thing that has come as a result of adoption is the people I’ve met who also have had the natural biological ebb and flow of their lives interrupted by adoption, i.e., other birth mothers and people who grew up adopted. Thanks to them, I no longer feel isolated, and I don’t feel quite as much like as much of a freak of nature.
So, to all of my friends in adoption, Thanks.